when sb talks to others & starts to complain or mention some situations or whatever he says,...the response of others is mostly commenting, criticizing, advising ,...etc. ,...which may not b the best thing all the time.....!!!
i heared once that a type of listening is emotional listening ,...& here the person just listens to the speaker without giving much comments or advice ,.....coz actually the speaker doesn't always seek that & it can bother him more & more.....!!!
i felt it's true coz sometimes i find myself saying -in my mind- sorry for starting to talk <-< ,...yeah i may seek a mutual conversation but that doesn't mean it's just about saying lectures in whatever the conv. is about ,... & i noticed that most of the ppl do that with their friends,..children or whoever talks to them ,...feeling that they r helping & unfortunately they may not b.....!!!
mayb i do that some times but not alot,...4 example i have a friend who always does odd things (from my own POV) & sometimes i feel that how come she said or did so!!!!but i rarely criticize her & if i do, i do it jokingly coz i know that @ that moment she doesn't seek criticism & i'm here just to listen & if i start to judge,blame & give advice i'll make nth except bothering her more & more......!!!!
after all ppl have a problem in listening generally not just in that issue ,....coz they always take the time -in which they should listen others - thinking about what they r gonna say ....it's a matter of listening skills!!!!!
i heared once that a type of listening is emotional listening ,...& here the person just listens to the speaker without giving much comments or advice ,.....coz actually the speaker doesn't always seek that & it can bother him more & more.....!!!
i felt it's true coz sometimes i find myself saying -in my mind- sorry for starting to talk <-< ,...yeah i may seek a mutual conversation but that doesn't mean it's just about saying lectures in whatever the conv. is about ,... & i noticed that most of the ppl do that with their friends,..children or whoever talks to them ,...feeling that they r helping & unfortunately they may not b.....!!!
mayb i do that some times but not alot,...4 example i have a friend who always does odd things (from my own POV) & sometimes i feel that how come she said or did so!!!!but i rarely criticize her & if i do, i do it jokingly coz i know that @ that moment she doesn't seek criticism & i'm here just to listen & if i start to judge,blame & give advice i'll make nth except bothering her more & more......!!!!
after all ppl have a problem in listening generally not just in that issue ,....coz they always take the time -in which they should listen others - thinking about what they r gonna say ....it's a matter of listening skills!!!!!
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