Is it wiser for the person to show his anger when he gets bothered from a certain act esp. from ppl he deals with daily instead of keeping it inside...?!!
i asked myself this Q after a conv. with a friend when we were chatting & i told her that i was so bothered from sb coz she was kind of joking aggressively without realizing that it is a kind of insult not just for me but for others who were with me,... but as i always react i dnt have response in such situations coz i normally forget about it & think that it's not a big deal ,..after all she was joking,..& i keep acting towards her as if nth happened (almost)...!!!
so that's how i think about such issues,... it doesn't deserve paying attention ,..but my friend told me sth which made me ask the previous Q,..she said "why dnt u tell her decently u r bothered with that ...instead of keeping it ,..it's a matter of self esteem ,..u can't get bothered or hurt more & more without taking any reactions...!!!!"
mayb she had a point,..but i also still think that such issues doesn't deserve to stop @ & i don't consider them a matter of self esteem ,..i've never thought that way...!!!, ... in addition i find difficulty in blaming others (even if it's in a decent way) coz as i got bothered with sb's harsh way , i don't like to pay it back the same way ....!!!
anyway she made me think somehow in a diff. way,..but still i have the tendency to ignore such issues & to say nth...!!!
dunno...!
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sometimes,u have 2 show this anger,or u explode but most dnt try 2 or at least show this wiz anger smile (فابتسم إلي النبي صلي الله عليه و سلم ابتسامة الغضبان)somethng like zat
but be sure,if u told them u got angry from this king of joking,they'll forget zat as u forget their silly joking
zat's wat i think&learned frm my friends:S
yeah ,..kind of..!!
after all i'ts not a severe or rude joking,... most of those who deal with me since we i was in school know that i have limits & i dnt accept some words or actions...!!
so it's really not a big big deal,...what i'm talking about here is tiny things that can b ignored but they also may b bothering for a while as being sarcastic,...or so...!!!
so the debate was about small bothering issues & whether we should stop @ them not to b repeated or just ignore'm...!!
trying 2 tell then 2 stop tiny actions zats not bother u alot may make them get fed up wiz u
wats there?? everythng annoyin her,she r killin us (usual word by friends)
zat z end,u may lose them coz of these tiny thngs,my opinoun just ignore or change from being alien:D
لو عندك القدرة انك تفوتي ...فوتي و كمان خديها بنية العفو عن المقدرة و تكسبي ثواب
لكن اذا اردت ان تسجلي غضب أو اعتراض على تصرف شخص ما له صلة بك و (خاصة ان كانت قوية) فاحذري و ابتعدي تماما عن تأجيل البوح بهذا الاعتراض
(حتة فصحي ارننة)
لانه لو فات وقت ابداء الاعتراض هيكون ساعتها ظلم كبير للشخص ده انه يتم تذكيره بالواقعة دي رغم انه لو عرف انها تضايق كان ممكن يعتذر و ساعتها تلتصق بك تهمة "إنك بتشيلي من الناس" و ده اتهام غبى و مقرف يسيئ لك أو لأي حد يقوم بالتصرف ده
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laken ya3ny lama beyeb2a fy sha7'seya oslobha fel kalam mesh ma7sob,..esp. law kaman odam nas maye3rafonash koways,..beyeb2a ya3ny el mawkef re7'em,...!!!
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