Define:"Motadayen"..!

I guess we've all been in a situation where u describe some1 as "Motadayen" or find some1 introduced to u as "Motadayen"...!!

actually sometimes i used to use the word,..till i felt that it's a flexible word used by each one according to his perception,..so i began to ask myself what is the definition of "Motadayen".. ?!



Ok,..1st let me mention that i'm really obsessed by definitions, dependencies,variables & constants in analysis,..judgements,..decision making...etc

so asking myself about the definition of "Motadayen" is a part of making sure that i'm using the right word in the right place , & it's also a way to make sure that i dnt miscommunicate with others when we mention the word "Motadayen"...!!



According to my observations i felt that most of the ppl tend to describe some1 as "Motadayen" for his image plus the apparent "3ebadat",....for example;
having a beard
wearing hejab or even having a certain style in clothes
saying "Jazakomo Allaho 7'ayran" instead of thanx or merci
avoiding music
fasting "al nawafel"
writing religion-related blogs or even copying them
carry a "Mos7af" all the time
using verses from Quran as signatures,status,personal msg's,..etc
attending periodic lectures for a certain she7' in a mosque or sth
talking with ppl alot about religious issues
forwarding religious e-mails
........etc

so those were examples of things that ring the bell of "Tadayon" for many ppl,...even they dnt know the person ,..they just look make the conclusion & label him as "Motadayen" & begin to deal with him from this POV..!!

actually i dnt have a problem with anyth i mentioned above,..on the contrary i appreciate all that & i know how valuable they r for the person,...but still can't make them criteria for favoring some ppl & categorize them as "Motadayenen" ...coz after all this is just one dimension of the human life ,...we cant forget the unapparent "3ebadat",..the human relations ,...the manners,..& b4 anyth the INTENTION behind any action,...all that complete the image & make the judgement closer to the truth...!!

so b4 any1-who doesnt know me-thinks that i'm messing up & that i have problems or complications like some ppl do when it comes to religious issues,...Al7amdulelah i'm not,...!!!
i'm just trying to understand the usage of a word with no specific definition for most of the ppl,...& i bet that if i ask a random sample of ppl about the word,...they'll give totally different answers or even wont b able to give a justified explanation....!!!


let me add another point that makes me uncomfortable with using this word. If we assume that ppl judge a person & call him "Motadayen" based on religion related behavior (3ebadat,clothes,words,..etc)...is it their right to judge & categorize ppl?...!!!
aint it just Allah who can judge ppl & categorize them (فلا تزكوا انفسكم هو اعلم بمن اتقى),..accept or turn their actions (إنما يتقبل الله من المتقين),...knows their intentions & what's really in their hearts...(ربكم أعلم بما في نفوسكم إن تكونوا صالحين فإنه كان للأوابين غفورا),...aint it all out of the human being scope.....?!

i can't get why ppl insist on giving each other vague descriptions like "Motadayen" or "Moltazem"-which is the higher version i guess- & i dont wanna go through it coz i'm not that aware of the rating system used in such cases....& i dnt know when exactly the person get promoted from level to another & who decides this?!!!!


I know all what i say may not make sense for u & u may consider it exaggeration,...but i really think about this issue alot,...so i thought about sharing mayb some1 can shed some light on sides i cant figure out...!!!

& after all i believe that Allah gave us all the best rank ever coz we r "Muslims" :)