Gratitude Book..!

the Gratitude Book is sth i've passed by on TV & websites,..it's a way to practice gratitude on daily basis ,...it's a spiritual habit in the 1st place,...!

all u have to do is to:

-bring a small notebook

-spend few minutes each day to write 5 blessings (not necessarily 5,...u can write any no.,...but preferable a fixed no. to make it a habit )

-try to focus on what u write & feel the gratitude for each thing u write-write anyth & evth makes u feel grateful..,even if it seems tiny

-u may write the same blessing from different prespectives -u can make it i a fixed time in the day (once u wake up /or before u sleep)or any time

- if u forget it one day try to write'm down the next day aside with the new 5 i guess it's reasonable,..coz it's a kind of an interpretation for:

لَئِن شَكَرْتُمْ لأَزِيدَنَّكُم

ْوَإِن تَعُدُّواْ نِعْمَةَ اللّهِ لاَ تُحْصُوهَا إِنَّ اللّهَ لَغَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ

practicing gratitude on daily basis makes u focus on evth around u to extract the daily 5 ne3am ,...u'll never underestimate a ne3ma,...u'll discover some ne3am u used to take for granted in ur life...!!

i just wanted to share it with u,..so if u find it a good idea,..go buy a small notebook & start ,...& it'd be a good idea to buy 2 & give it as a giftt to some1 to start with u.. :)

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originally written on 27/10/08

Online War..!

Wars in the past used to be just by traditional weapons,...Nowadays,wars take new dimenssions in the world especially after the enormous global technological revolution...!

internet is on the top of the modern weapons used in wars,...& as we r in the middle of a severe war in Gaza-actually the worst in the past few years-we can c the Israeli ppl using this weapon to DECEIVE the world by spreading their LIES everywhere on websites ,webblogs,facebook,youtube,flicker,twitter,...etc.

& since we,arabs,are stuck in our argument ; we r not aware enough of this effective weapon ,..& we dont use it as much as they do to promote our cause , tell the whole world about the Israeli CRIMES in Palestine in the past decades & show every1 who is the real VICTIM...!!


one of the examples they use now is a facebook application to count Qassam rockets hitting Israel & update the user's status automatically HERE ,...they r making a big deal out of small things to make the world believe that they r suffering not TORTURING innocent ppl in Gaza....!!
they also fill their blogs with topics-full of lies or half truth- tagged (Gaza & Israel) to be on the top of the results when any1 searches..!!!
they play their DIRTY game on all the levels & use all the available weapons,...& that's what the war about....!!!

on the other hand i could find some efforts from arab bloggers to blog for Gaza & support the cause online like :
Bent Masreya غزة.. شارك في المعركة اونلاين
Gaza Talk How to resist Online ?

i also can mention a widget by Aljazeera (The Death Toll) which counts the number of dead ppl on both sides & shows the huge difference

so if u r a blooger,programmer, or even just a facebook member ,..if u have sth to do about this,..check the suggested ideas in the previous links & mayb u can write a fair topic in english or any language to talk to the world or make a useful application to support the cause,...who knows mayb it makes a difference more than just talking to ourselves in the same traditional way all the time...& fortunately this is an available & legal weapon but just needs new & effective ideas to make use of it...!!

Magic Moments..!!

The following is a part of paulo coelho's novel "By the river piedra i sat down & wept",...actually i didnt like it that much although it was recommended for me by more than 1 person ,..but those were the 2 pages which got stuck to my mind...!!

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You have to take risks, he said. We will only understand the miracle of life fully when we allow the unexpected to happen.

Every day, God gives us the sun—and also one moment in which we have the ability to change everything that makes us unhappy. Every day, we try to pretend that we haven't perceived that moment, that it doesn't exist—that today is the same as yesterday and will be the same as tomorrow. But if people really pay attention to their everyday lives, they will discover that magic moment. It may arrive in the instant when we are doing something mundane, like putting our front-door key in the lock; it may lie hidden in the quiet that follows the lunch hour or in the thousand and one things that all seem the same to us. But that moment exists—a moment when all the power of the stars becomes a part of us and enables us to perform miracles.

Joy is sometimes a blessing, but it is often a conquest. Our magic moment helps us to change and sends us off in search of our dreams. Yes, we are going to suffer, we will have difficult times, and we will experience many disappointments—but all of this is transitory; it leaves no permanent mark. And one day we will look back with pride and faith at the journey we have taken.

Pitiful is the person who is afraid of taking risks. Perhaps this person will never be disappointed or disillusioned; perhaps she won't suffer the way people do when they have a dream to follow. But when that person looks back—and at some point everyone looks back—she will hear her heart saying, "What have you done with the miracles that God planted in your days? What have you done with the talents God bestowed on you? You buried yourself in a cave because you were fearful of losing those talents. So this is your heritage: the certainty that you wasted your life"

Pitiful are the people who must realize this. Because when they are finally able to believe in miracles, their life's magic moments will have already passed them by.

For The Memory of Someone I've Never Seen..!

I haven't seen this person before he died,...i haven't known anyth about him,...& i even dunno till now, except 1 thing, that he was more than a special person...!!!

he died more than a year ago, & i can c how special he was in the eyes of his friend,..i can hear how different he was in their words,..i can feel how blessed he was from the everlasting grief filling them...!!!

i have seen many ppl,..& seen many kinds of friendship,...but i dnt remember i've seen this kind of eternal friendship,that lasts after death & gets deeper as time passes...i havent seen this loyality towards some1 who has gone,..i haven't seen some1 who leaves a great impact on ppl even if they have never seen him....i have never seen all this before...& i guess i wont c sth as impressive as this again...!!

mayb he's not around -physically- ,...but i can feel his precence all the time coz they feel it,..& as it's a strong feeling ,...its sincerity can touch everybody even if they dunno him...& its strength can make it as visible as the sun for everybody even if they havent seen him... !!

i know i have nth to do with this & i'm not involved to express it coz i didnt experience such a kind of relationships,..but at least i could c it & now i believe that some ppl can really have an extraordinary bond that turns them into 1 person in several bodies,.. so when 1 body goes away ,..he's never really gone ,...& when it seems for ppl that it's an end,...it's not really an end...coz the bond remains forever...!!!

so they were all lucky for having each other & mayb the destiny didnt give them the chance for many years to come,coz it's alwayes the case,perfect moments ends quickly & good ppl leave early(fortunately to a better place) ,..but at least they were given a special relationship , a tremendous memory & a unique feeling that few ppl can experience through their lives,..& before evth they were given the BOND that will last forever...!!


so for the memory of some1 i've never seen i say:
may Allah keep this BOND forever , & gather u all in paradise :)

إِخْوَانًا عَلَى سُرُرٍ مُتَقَابِلِينَ

Chapeau Israel..!

Chapeau Israel...that's all what i can say now !!

u may get astonished & ask y the hell am i saying that about the worst enemy ever?!!!!

but just wait a second i haven't turned insane yet, despite the severe scenes,... the deep pain,..the fading hope,..despite death & destruction,..despite all the darkness around,...i have't lost my mind yet...!

so y am i saying:"Chapeau Israel"?!

coz as usual they won,...& to be fair i have to admit it & greet them for their continuous success,..!!

they didnt win coz they killed hundreds of innocent ppl,...they didnt win coz they destroyed Gaza,..they didnt win coz they have the power ,..they won coz they could get us into an awful trap ,..they could blow in the fire of "Fitna" on all the levels,....no1 is talking now about Israel that much,..ev1 is talking about 7amas,Fat7, E7'wan,Egypt,Qatar,....etc.,..ev1 is arguing if there's a betrayal ,...each1 is blaming a party,...ppl are screaming on TV trying to prove their opinions ,...each unknown journalist or analyst is trying to make use of this opportunity to get in any talk show to say anyth about anyth,....arabs are arguing everywhere & accusing each other,...youth are fighting on chat rooms & forums about the cause,...,ppl are soaked in the tons of contradicted news they hear & read....each1 claims that he knows the whole truth when no1 really has it,....countries,leaders,ppl began to throw each others with words & on the other hand they began to get defensive concerning themselves, forgetting the main issue,...the main crisis,..the main ENEMY....!!!

so it's really justified to say Bravo Israil,...coz they always defeat arabs,..& arabs always help them with their stupidity,triviality,arogance,retardation & ignorance. they always give Israel the way to beat them,...they alwayes give it the best & the easiest chances ever for an enemy to take.

How lucky Israel to have such a kind enemy...& How pathetic we r..!!!

it's really awful but i have to say it & unfortunately seems i'll say it for years to come :"Chapeau Israel"...!!!!!

Nostalgia..!

I say: "A human being is nth but an accumulation of memories & experience."

both are gifts; no matter how good or bad,..no matter how happy or sad..they remain the core of the person.BUT the good memories are the ultimate gift...!!

last year i met 10 ppl who gave me this gift like no1 did b4,...those r my amazing "IT & Media' 08" Team...!

Guys,..i owe u tons of tremendous memories,... i can catch myself smiling at remembering great moments we've LIVED together ,..yeah LIVED ,...i dnt say "spent" or "worked" ,..coz we really lived together for almost 8 months (31July'07-22March'08),...8 months that seemed years,..we had those days when we spent around 12 hours together,....we had those weeks when we met everyday,...we had those months of continuous trainings & work,..we had all those wonderful moments which i will never forget...NEVER!!

i know months passed & it's over....but believe it or not,.. I MISS u all like hell...!!u r the best team ever,..u r the best group of ppl i've worked with,...u r 10 unique,..mmm... teammates,..friends,..brothers & sisters,...dunno what should i call u ,..coz we all had this special relationship that gathered us all the time & built special bonds between totally different 10 personalities!

i believe that i wont have a better team,...i know we went through evth a team can go through,...we had ups & downs ,..we had those tough moments,.but as a whole i can say it's the best experience i have ever gone through,..we were the best team ever,..& even ppl out of the team witnessed that & say it till now ..."You R The Best"...!!

Guys,..i know we still c each others,...but even if i dnt c u physically ,...i can c u in evth around....!!!

i can feel u in every corner we passed by in the faculty,..i can feel u when i pass in midan Salah El Deen,..i can feel u in Nabil el wa2ad,...i can feel u in Crunchy or Boreo Jumbo,..i can feel u when i work on my laptop,..i can feel u when i c my old RAM's,..i can feel u in salé sucré,..i can feel u with Andrew Cramer,...i can feel u in PS,Flash,DW,AE,ZEND,..i can feel u in my flashmemory,..i can feel u in kaspersky,...in can feel u in Carlos Santana,...i can feel u in any chroma,..i can feel u in my digital camera,...i can FEEL & SEE u EVWHERE...!

yeah i feel u evwhere, but i also have those times when i feel this bitter feeling of missing each and every moment we have lived together,...i miss the trainings,..i miss the sweet pain we felt while working for hours,...i miss the brainstorming,...the shooting,..the editing,...the rendering,...i miss the sleepless nights,...i miss our victory moments when ev1 said "IT...u ROCK",..& we said "Al7amdulelah"...!!!

SIMPLY i miss evth,ev1,ev.moment..!!!

i know that many ppl had those feelings for some days after the closing,..they suffer from the "Post Conference Depression ..PCD" for few days ,...but guess what?...i had a "Pre Conference Depression" symptoms,..when i used to look at evth & ev1 & felt bad for imagining that evth was gonna end in few days,...& surely i had a deep "Post Conference Depression",..with severe withdrawal symptoms for long time,....& surprisingly for the 1st time i shed tears for leaving a group of ppl with whom i worked & lived...!!

& the unbelievable thing is that i still have sth inside longing for those days,.. those thoughts become stronger in some moments that i find myself having all the possible expressions on my face as if i'm re-living those moments.

OMG,..i'm digging so deep in memories ,..& guess what?..it brings me this feeling of the bitter-sweet longing for the past,..the sweetness for passing through all that,..& the bitterness for not having those real moments anymore...!!

it may seem weird- for some1 not so emotional & expressive like me-to write this now,..but for me it's not,..coz i always recall those memories whenever i feel bad,..so that i cheer up & smile :)

Guys,i know months & years will pass,...ev1 will go in his way & have his life,..we may c each others & we may not,....but i'm sure the memories wont fade,... i'll c u in evth around,.. i'll always remember u & long for the great moments we lived together,...!!

Gasser,Yasmine,SaraH,Amal,OmEr,Ismail,Negm,Abdu,Tarek,Zizo;I owe u all those tremendous memories :)Thank u for every single moment we lived together :)

Life Spectrum..!

being in contact with different ppl having different mentalities makes me always think , analyze & sometimes come up with theories & analogies between ppl & anyth in life...!

this time i had a little convo. with some1 who almost has 1 priority in his life ,..or mayb i should not call it priority coz one prioritizes when one has multiple things to be managed,...so this person's life is almost dedicated to 1 thing,...he may not have the time to sleep or eat ,...he believes that anyth other than his main goal is useless,...& actually he succeeds to outstand in that one thing....!!!



i'm not gonna judge & say this is good or bad coz after all one's life is one's choice ,...i'm just gonna put emperical models for ppl's approaches in life to show my point of view...& excuse me if i get into math...so here we go...!

i call today's theory :"Life spectrum"...as it deals with the distribution of all the human activities across his life...& i'm gonna examples for clarification...!

1st of all
let:
the x-axis be the different human activities (career,family,entertainment,spirtiuality,charity...etc.)
the y-axis be the weight of each activity,..or the power given to each...!!

& here are 2 examples:

1st:
the type whose life is almost about one thing- like the example i mentioned at the begining-

this type's life spectrum can be modeled by a delta function located @ one point (i.e:one activity),...with maximum amplitued,..while the amplitudes @ the other points are zero ,..or let's say TEND to zero to -b more precise-!!

2nd:
the type whose life is multidimensional ,..those who make different things in life with different weights according to their priorities , they outstand in one thing & @ the same time have other small accomplishments in other fields..!

this type's life spectrum can be modeled by a Gaussian distributed function ,which has a maximum amplitude @ one point (which corresponds to the thing in which the person outstands & puts much efforts ) ,...& has other significant values around the maximum...!!


those r 2 models of life spectra to make my theory clearer,..& surely each one has his own unique model which is formulated by his thoughts & actions.

i believe there's no optimum model for life spectra,...but my personal opinion is that:
the Gaussian(or Normal) distributed spectrum is the closest one to the normal life balance -as its name reveals-coz it increases the person's exposure to different things ,..& gives life new dimenssions.
while the delta spectrum -in my point of view-is a disguised triviality coz the person of this type-even if his delta amplitude is incredibly large- leads a one dimensional life since he mainly believes in one thing ,...does one thing,..& know sone thing...!!

this was the "Life Spectrum" theory,..& this was my personal opinion...!
& now u can think about ur life spectrum & adjust it the way u want coz it's all about ur choice..!!

Life Lessons...!

throughout my life -my short life-i've learnt several things,....one of the most important things i've learnt in the few previous year is:

whenever u have the:time,the health,the energy,the passion,the money,the mental state,the ppl around,the environemnt,or whatever allows u to:

learn sth new,

do "ta3at",

help someone,

gain new experience ,

knock the unknocked doors,

have fun,

take steps forward,

or do any legal & benefecial thing for u & for ppl around u, DO NOT hesitate or postpone ,..just take the chance,..coz there may come times when u dont have the perfect spirtual,mental,phsychological, financial or physical states to help u do whatever u could have done before....!!

so whenever u c the chance,..GRAB IT...!

Celebrate Failure..!

The following thoughts are a message to me before any1 else :)

Enjoy:)

"Celebrate failure"

what a crazy phrase...!

u may wonder "Can any1 celebrate his failure?!
surely the answer is not "Yes he can"...the answer is "YES HE SHOULD"...!!

am i getting crazier...?!

mayb ...but that's what i've learnt from "The Robinsons"....!!

Does this ring any bells..?!..

i guess it does, in case u r a cartoon fan like me :D

it's "Meet The Robinsons" movie by Disney where u can c the ultimate positive attitude ever..!!

excuse me if i'm getting that much into cartoon ,..but i'm sure i'm not the only one here who looks to cartoon as a magnificent world & an amazing source of inspiration as well as entertainment..!

if u watched the movie u surely remember the scene when Lewis failed & began to apologize when the whole family cheered & celebrated his failure..!

if u didnt watch it ,..u can read the quoted part at the end*,..but make sure to watch it later :)

i watched "Meet The Robinsons" more than once ,..but it was just the last time when this phrase began to echo in my mind continuously:

"Celebrate Failure"

"Celebrate Failure"

"Celebrate Failure"

i began to think of the kind of failure which deserves celebration,.. & i called it the "Smart Failure"...!

it's the failure that comes after planning the right way & doing the best ...!

it's the non repeated failure that teaches u sth new & help u know what works & what doesnt...!!

this kind of failure...the "Smart Failure" gives u the right to celebrate...!!

so whenever u face a "Smart Failure" moment,...stop & celebrate coz here u make sure u r not dead yet,...u r still here trying,..u still have the inner passion to go forward ...!!

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“Okay, that should do it!” Lewis laid down the screwdriver and examined the PB and J invention.

“It’s so exciting … Let her rip, Lewis!” Billie exclaimed, looking excited.

“Quickly,” Art urged. “Uncle Joe can’t hold on much longer!” A red faced Uncle Joe was rocking in his seat, sobbing and sucking his thumb.

“Everybody ready?”

“Go, Carl!” Lewis handed the machine to Carl. Everybody cheered as he activated the invention; it whirred promisingly, then jammed again. “Oh no,” Lewis breathed, sounding apprehensive. Peanut butter and jelly exploded out of the gun, landing on everyone. “Oh no,” Lewis moaned again, burying his face in his hands. “I – I didn’t know, I’m sorry, I’m so sorry!”

“You failed!” cried Bud happily.

“And it was awesome!” Gaston applauded Lewis.

“Exceptional,” Art added.

“Outstanding!” cheered Laszlo.

“Uh … I’ve seen better!” Petunia shrieked, always with a positive attitude.

“From failing, you learn,” Billie told Lewis, shrugging. “From success, not so much!”

تأملات فى حال البلاد و العباد(2)...!!!ا

ا"اللهم أهلك اليهود و النصارى أجمعين...اللهم رمل نساءهم و يتم أطفالهم...اللهم أحصهم عددا و اقتلهم بددا و لا تغادر منهم أحدا.....!!ا"...الخ


اعتدت أن أستمع الى ذلك النوع من الأدعية فى صلاة الجماعة...سواء كان القيام فى رمضان أو حتى فى صلاة الجمعة على مدار العام...و كنت دائما ما ألاحظ الاجتهاد فى الدعاء عند تلك الأجزاء من قبل الامام...و مضاعفة التضرع من قبل المصلين ...و فى ذات الوقت كان ينتابنى شعور بالريبة يثير داخلى الكثير من التساؤلات حول ذلك النوع من الأدعية..و لا يخفى على الكثيرين أن مجرد التساؤل فى مثل تلك الأمور -التى قد اعتيد عليها لسنوات- قد يضع المتسائل فى دائرة الاتهام بالتشكيك فى المأثورات أو عدم نصرة الاسلام...الخ


و لكننى و لأنى أعلم أن هذا الأمر ليس من المعلوم فى الدين بالضرورة ..و أن هناك مجالا للتساؤل عنه ظلت بداخلى تساؤلات.. فكنت أفكر فى موقف الرسول -عليه الصلاة و السلام- فى مثل تلك الأمور
هل دعا مثل تلك الأدعية و بنفس الألفاظ؟
هل كان يدعو فى كل يوم على كل من لا ينتمى للاسلام؟
لماذا لم يدع أن يطبق الله على قومه الأخشبين؟
ألم يدع الرسول قائلا"اللهم اهد قومى فانهم لا يعلمون"..!ا



ثم حاولت أن أجد تفسيرا و أفكر لماذا ينطلق المصلين بكل حواسهم فى التأمين على تلك الأدعية

هل هو حقا حب الاسلام المتقد فى نفوسهم ؟...أم هى تلك المرارة من التى ذاقوا منها ألوانا؟...هل هى الرغبة الدفينة فى الانتقام ؟...أم هو الحب و البغض فى الله؟...أم أنه العجز المسيطر الذى يدفعهم الى الانطلاق فى الدعاء ظنا منهم أنهم بذلك قد أدوا ما عليهم تجاه الاسلام و المسلمين و تطهروا من سلبيتهم و خمولهم التى ما يلبثوا أن يعودوا اليها بمجرد أن تخطو أقدامهم أول خطوة خارج أبواب المسجد؟



و أخذت أتساءل
أليس من الممكن أن يكون أحد المصلين -و هو يدعو عليهم جملة- قد دعا على أمه أو زوجته الكتابية ؟
أليس من الممكن أن يكون أحد المصلين من معتنقى الاسلام حديثا و يكون بذلك داعيا على سائر قومه بدلا من الدعاء لهم بالهداية؟
أليس هناك من غير المسلمين من شوهت فى عقله صورة الاسلام بما كسبت أيدى المسلمين أنفسهم؟
أليس هناك من غير المسلمين من لا يسعون الى ايذاء الاسلام؟ بل و يسعون الى مناصرة قضاياه أحيانا بدافع أنسانى بحت؟
أليس الأقرب الى نفسية المسلم السوية تمنى الخير لمثل هؤلاء بدلا من استجماع كل السخط و الغل و الكراهية و توجيهها اليهم فى سلسلة من الأدعية العامة المرسلة التى تشمل الجميع دون استثناءات تذكر...؟!!ا


الى أخره من التساؤلات التى تتبادر الى ذهنى فى كل وقت أقف خلف امام يدعو فى الصلاة مثل تلك الأدعية...و لا أعلم هل فكر البعض فى ذلك الأمر من تلك الزاوية أم لا...و لأننى لا أملك الاجابة الدقيقة عن كل الأسئلة التى تجول بخاطرى ..قررت أن أختتم حديثى فبجزء عنوانه (الأدعية الاستفزازية) من كتاب "خطابنا الاسلامى فى عصر العولمة"..للدكتوريوسف القرضاوى ...قرأته منذ أعوام قليلة و شعرت أنه يصب فى نفس القضية التى دائما ما تؤرقنى...!ا




الأدعية الاستفزازية



ليس من الموعظة الحسنة اتخاذ الأدعية الاستفزازية في صلوات الجمع وفي قنوت النوازل وغيرها. فبعض الوعاظ والخطباء يدعون الله تعالى: أن يهلك اليهود والنصارى جميعا، وأن ييتم أطفالهم، ويرمل نساءهم، ويجعلهم وأموالهم وأولادهم غنيمة للمسلمين

ومن المعلوم أن في كثير من بلاد المسلمين توجد أقليات من النصارى - وربما من اليهود - وهم مواطنون يشاركون المسلمين في المواطنة، وليس من اللائق أن ندعو بدعوة تشمل هؤلاء بالهلاك والدمار؛ إنما اللائق والمناسب أن ندعو على اليهود الغاصبين المعتدين، وأن ندعو على الصليبيين الحاقدين الظالمين، لا على كل اليهود والنصارى.

على أني لم أجد في أدعية القرآن ولا في أدعية الرسول ولا في أدعية الصحابة مثل هذه الدعوات المثيرة: يتم أطفالهم، ورمل نساءهم، وأمثالها. بل أدعية القرآن مثل: {ربنا أفرغ علينا صبرا وثبت أقدامنا وانصرنا على القوم الكافرين} (البقرة: 250). {ربنا لا تجعلنا فتنة للقوم الظالمين. ونجنا برحمتك من القوم الكافرين}ا

ومن أدعية الرسول: "اللهم منزل الكتاب ومجري السحاب وهازم الأحزاب اهزمهم وانصرنا عليهم

"اللهم إنا نجعلك في نحورهم، ونعوذ بك من شرورهم"

وقد قال تعالى: {ادعوا ربكم تضرعا وخفية إنه لا يحب المعتدين} (الأعراف: 55). أي لا يحب الذين يعتدون ويتجاوزون في دعائهم

وبعض الخطباء يدعون الله تعالى بابادة الكفار جميعا و لا يبقى منهم باقية قائلين"اللهم أحصهم عددا و اقتلهم بددا و لا تغادر منهم أحدا"و هذا دعاء دعا به أحد الصحابة على من عذبوه و اخوانه و عرضوهم للقتل و الصلب،فهو دعاء خاص،فجاء هؤلاء الخطباء و جعلوه عاما، و استخدام الخاص فى موضع العام من أسباب الزيغ و انحراف التفكير

و لا خلاف أن الدعاء باهلاك الكافرين جميعا "أن يقتلهم بددا و لا يبقى منهم أحدا" ينافى ما أخبر به القران أن كفر الكافرين واقع بمشيئة الله تعالى:{ولو شاء ربك لأمن من فى الأرض كلهم جميع }(يونس: 99)ا

فمن ذا الذى يعارض مشيئة رب العالمين؟

X Y Z

X Y Z....when we c them we just remember "Variables",....!!
in mathematics or physics or anth we just frequently use them to refer to the variables or the different parameters...but what are variables for me?!

X Y Z..etc. or variables are not just related to science & equations,...for me variables r a real ACHE ,... dunno if it was my nature or it just turned like that in the few past years,...mayb i got affected by the kind of study i'm involved in ,....but whatever the reason is,..it's really a big deal for me...!

whenever i think about anyth ,..analyze any issue ,..i just look to evth & try to separate the related constants & variables ,...& unfortunately variables r alwayes more than constants & consequently opinions ,..decisions,..judgements are really so hard.

surely this confuses me alot most of the time & it may even bother me sometimes,...but i guess it's not that bad,..on the contrary; it's a good thing to control the way you think & tackle issues even if it makes it harder for the mind to process & give results...!!

ah,..btw;i'm not just getting my life more complicated ^o),...mayb it's just the ALIEN mind's domination :)...!!

Can We Play Together?

back to childhood days......
i remember a common situation i faced a lot when i was a kid,....whenever i went to the club,..the beach,..etc.,....other kids,as usual, used to come & say "Can we be friends?=momken netsa7eb?"or"can we play together?"...etc.


i used to look @ them unsure ^o),...walk away,..or even ignore them as if i heared nth...!!!actually i wasnt an arrogant or spoiled kid ,..i know i was-& still-shy & a bit-or alot-non social,...but when i think about it now i find myself wondering if i-as a kid- had the feeling that friendship can't b built that way,...mayb it wasn't convincing to me starting a friendship by offering or requesting ,...mayb i couldnt get the point of assigning the word "friendship" to a couple of hour relationship,...mayb i had a problem getting so intimate to someone that easy, or even have a problem in my interpersonal chemistry.....dunno..!


anyway seems i went far in analyzing a samall issue as usual :D,...& i guess i had nth like that in mind when i was a little kids ,...so whatever the reason was i used to leave a 1st impression of a boring kid ,...& before some1 says it & i'll say it;i now i'm still leaving a bad FIRST impression,...but i guess not the same manners...i dnt ignore ppl or walk away",..i just dnt go "play"- or let me say in the grown ups terminology-"get along with ppl that easy...!

after all we r the same person :),...me & the kid within :D

The Giant Within..!

August 2008
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when the light is shed to reveal the giant within...!!!

Srebrenica massacre..!

how many ppl around the world know about "11 september" ? ...how many heared about "The Holocaust"?...
thousands,millions,..or even billions...!!

fine,..& how many heared about "Srebrenica massacre"?...
or let me ask the harder Question,...how many 'Muslim' know about it?!
unfortunately i can confirm they r few,..& u may be one of them or one of the millions who have no idea about it....!!

i'm not gonna claim that i knew about it along time ago,..i just new around four years ago when i passed by an article on its anniversary & i knew a little about it...!
& here we are in 2008 after 13 years & few ppl know about this brutal massacre where the Serbs killed more than 8000 muslims in Srebrenica (in Bosnia and Herzegovina) as a part of an ethnic cleansing campaign against the muslims...!!

last july was the 13th anniversary,...& nowadays the case is still discussed in the international court of justice ,..& still few ppl know about it ,...which is a shame after all...!!


i'm not gonna say that i know evth sbout the issue which is bad,...but i try to know & care coz i have to,..& that's why i bought the book shown above once i saw it in the book fair coz its intro is by mahathir mohamed & the author was a witness who survived the massacre,....actually it's not a history book,..it's a novel & i can't say it's so great or the best theing i've read coz after all it's a novel,.....but still it had sth to connect me with the case & trough it i found out some points about different issues ,...for example i found out about muslims in a place called "boritaria" or sth -not sure about the name-which is near the north pole ,..i found out many things although it was just a novel...!!


i repeat ,..it's a shame to stay 13 years without spreading the awareness about the massacre,...without supporting the case,...& without standing against humanity & muslim humilation in a clear case like that...!!

Confusion Point...!

"if preparatory was pointless & 1st electrical was a turning point,....let 2nd electrical be the Deception Point......!!!"

Deception point

11/June/2007

so what about the 4th year ?
let me call it "The Confusion Point"...!
it was one of the worst years -if not the worst -since KG........or let me say that's how i saw it from my narrow human point of view ,....coz we alwayes-as humans-dont c the hidden gifts from Allah in the pain & most probably we realize them too late ,......!!

i know that but i have to admit sometimes i forget or get so overwhelmed by pain & despair that i cant avoid or get'm out of mind....!


i'm not gonna go deeply in the issue coz i guess it's clear from it's name it's confusing,...it was hazy & no1 will get it coz i tried alot to analyse it .....but i believe ev1 has a time when he goes through a vague problem & just feel bad....!

so after all it finished ,...& i'm waiting the result as usual...but this year my waiting & my prayer is different coz evyear i prayed to get high grades & asked allah alot ,...but this year i just pray to have the gift of SATISFACTION ,...i really need it badly & no one excpet allah can give it me ,....this is my only hope to ACCEPT any result & i mean it ANY result in peace & never feel bad about it ,...that's all what i beg for....!

i'm anxious about my reaction towards the result more than the result itself ,....i really really really need Allah's help to get over it regardless of how bad or good it is,....!!

so i ask no1 but Allah to give me satisfaction,strength & patience now & all the time...coz if i lose them i'll lose evth....!!

YA RAB

A One-Question Test..!

who is/r ur best friend/s?*

if u take seconds thinking b4 mentioning their names....
if u r not able to name them immediately....
if u r not saying their names confidently......

THEN:
u don't really have one/s....!!!!!!



*(the accurecy of this test depends on ur definition of "best friend")

Relative,Personal,Non-judgeable...!

What’s meant by ‘problem’ or ‘crisis’?! …is it sth absolute?...can we define it exactly ?!...& can ev1 judge it on the same basis?!

I was thinking about the concept of problems & crises ,…how ppl feel ,judge & deal with them,…..& why they act differently towards them …!!!

I found out that it’s simply what bothers & irritates the person regardless of its size or how others think about it coz I believe it’s sth relative ,....so a problem is called a problem only by the one who feels it !!

But the remarkable point that ppl insist on judging each other & they tend to underestimate others’ problems which is too bad...!!

I remember I was talking with my 8-year-old cousin about school ,… I found out that he is bothered by the sports class coz they just play football & he doesn’t like it ,but there’s no other choice ,…he also hates the attitude of the kids in playing as they always curse eachother & say 'bad words' –he said I"I wont mention’m"-

Mayb it seems a trivial thing,..but personally I felt this should b taken seriously,…if he’s a little kid it doesn’t mean that every feeling,word or problem is also little ,…coz after all it sth irritable.

Another situation I remember when I was talking with a friend who used to teach illiterate to read & she said how come they take all that time to learn a lettter & how it seems impossible to teach them certain letters….& I just told her think about a 50-year-old KG student who is working ,raising children or grandchildren & immersed in life problems ,…dnt look from ur prespective ,….it may b a kind of torture for them.,……!!

When I rethought about this issue I felt that underestimating others’ problems is the default between ppl,…teenagers & kids,….youth & teenagers,….old & youth ,…highly educated & illliterate ….etc…..although each one was probably on the other side one day ,….but either he forgets his previous problems or just pretend he had no similar ones,….so he feels better by stressing that his problems r the worst nightmares while others’ r just a kind of exaggeration .

In coclusion; a problem is a relative personal non-judgeable issue…!!

Regret..!

one of the confusing questions that always comes to my mind & keep bothering me sometimes ...!!
Is REGRET a human right?...& i mean to regret an action or a decision without being ungrateful to Allah & without being overwhelmed by the severe feeling of guilt?!

coz whenever sb complains about sth & say that he regrets a certain decision almost ev1 blames him for thinking that way & just say "that's how Allah plans our lives ,..& mayb it's good for u ,..so dnt regret coz u r unthankful that way....."...or they say "didn't u pray "esti7'ara"?....then believe that whatever path u've taken ,..it's the best inshaAllah"....etc.

surely i totally agree with all that,..& i do believe in it ...so where's the problem?!!!!
the problem that i agree to a certain point,....but i keep thinking about some confusing points...!!

Allah gives the human the freedom to choose in certain points in life ,...so the person is responsible for his actions & there's a chance to make wrong decisions ,...& that's y there's the accountability issue or the (Thawab & 3ekab),... & as for the "esti7'ara" issue ,..i'm not sure but i guess it's not a compass or a 100% indication coz still the human mind & some other factors may dominate & direct the person,... so i believe we can't just consider it a thing to hang every decision or action on it ...!!

so thinking that way make me reach the conclusion that :
if the person has the chance to make both right & wrong decision than it's valid to regret his actions & learn from his faults without being ungrateful to Allah....!!
i always try to rethink to find out whether i'm right or wrong.....but after all i keep thinking.....!!

i know it's a complicated issue,..& mayb i couldn't explain it clearly ,...but that's how it goes with thoughts ....!!!

η..!

in any process there's sth called the efficiency ,..it's kind of an indication to the "useful" output coz the output itself is meaningless if not looked at as a combination of useful & useless components,...this useless component is the dissipated part & consequently is valueless ...!!

so why am saying all that now?!!,...coz it's applicable to some point on evth in life...!!

let me start with an example concerning the educational system coz it's where i'm stuck right now,....& the freakin' exams should have an impact on me one way or another....!!

so here we go......
if i talk about my personal experience i can say that the process we're living in has an extremely low efficiency....& the ones who r managing the system r not aware of that point coz unfortunately they believe in superlatives .
they just keep the hardest way,the longest paths,the most complicated techniques ,the oldest procedures ,.....etc. ,....& they just believe that the hardest,the longest,the most complicated,the oldest ...etc will keep them the BEST....which is not true.....coz all that may dissipate human power -which is the most valuable asset for the person-without getting a considerable "useful" output ....& this is a disaster...!

i know some ppl say that whatever u go through in ur life is useful to a point & even if u dnt learn or get a tangible thing ,..u'll learn persistence ,patience,hard work...bla bla bla......,for me it's as if u turn a device on or whatever continuously just to find out its capacity & know how much it lasts ,..but actually u r just dissipating power in vain...coz it has a another main function u r neglecting...that's exactly how it works with us here or worse !!

so let me ask,...if there's a possibility to learn more (quality not quantity),use the same power in more useful tunings & minimize the dissipation ,..why not?....& who said that we reached the optimum performance with the current system?!,....forget about being the best or the most reputable faculty or university & all those stuff we hear......coz it's not true anymore or let me say it's not sth absolute .....& this sense of superiority makes things worse year after year.....& consequently the overall efficiency is dramatically declining with respect 2 others who may not care about those "superlatives" that much coz they care more about the usefulness of the output ....!!!

mayb it's just an example & mayb some ppl dont agree with me & c that i'm exaggerating ,...but that's how i c things not only in the higher education -i'm involved in-but in many many other things around us ,..the efficiency is usually very low & still most of the ppl look to the absolute output value & feel good about the superlatives which is pointless...coz again & on a larger scale for example :
what's the use of being one of the OLDEST civilizations if we r not keeping the keys of success & using our resources efficiently ? what's the point of having one of the LONGEST rivers if we r wasting & ruining it? what's the use of having the LARGEST plantable lands in the area if we r not using them? or what's the point of having one of the HIGHEST percentages of youth in a country if we r ruining them?!...what's the point of all those ***..EST if they r just dissipated like that ?!

so again,..after all it's not about how much output we get ,...it's about the USEFUL part or the efficiency which should be kept in consideration in each & every process in life....!!

Vitriol...!!!

Veronika Decides To Die
Paulo Coelho
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'You say they create their own reality,' said Veronika, 'but what is reality?'

'It's what the majority deems it to be. It's not necessarily the best or the most logical, but it's the one that has become adapted to the desires of society as a whole. You see this thing i've got round my neck?'

'You mean your tie?'

'Exactly. Your answer is the logical, coherent answer an absolutely normal person would give: it's a tie! A madman, however, would say that what I have round my neck is a ridiculous, useless bit of coloured cloth tied in a very complicated way, and which makes it harder to get air into your lungs and difficult to turn your neck. I have to be careful when I'm anywhere near a fan, or I could be strangled by this bit of cloth.

If a mad person were to ask me what this tie is for, I would have to say, absolutely nothing. It's not even purely decorative, since nowadays it's become a symbol of slavery, power, aloofness. The only really useful function a tie serves is the sense of relief when you get home and take it off; you feel as if you've freed yourself from something, though quite what you don't know.

'But does that sense of relief justify the existence of ties? No. Nevertheless, if I were to ask a madman and a normal person what this is, the sane person would say: a tie. It doesn't matter who's correct, what matters is who's right.'

Certain people, in their eagerness to construct a world which no external threat can penetrate, build exaggeratedly high defenses against the outside world, against new people, new places, different experiences, and leave their inner world stripped bare. It is there that Bitterness begins its irrevocable work.

The will was the main target of Bitterness (or Vitriol, as Dr. Igor preferred to call it). The people attacked by this malaise began to lose all desire, and within a few years, they became unable to leave their world, where they had spent enormous reserves of energy constructing high walls in order to make reality what they wanted it to be.

In order to avoid external attack, they had also deliberately limited internal growth, they continued going to work, watching television, having children, complaining about the traffic, but these things happened automatically, unaccompanied by any particular emotion, because, after all, everything was under control.

The great problem with poisoning by Bitterness was that the passions -- hatred, love, despair, enthusiasm, curiosity -- also ceased to manifest themselves. After a while, the embittered person felt no desire at all. They lacked the will either to live or to die, that was the problem.

That is why embittered people find heroes and madmen a perennial source of fascination, for they have no fear of life or death. Both heroes and madmen are indifferent to danger and will forge ahead regardless of what other people say. The madman committed suicide, the hero offered himself up to martyrdom in the name of a cause, but both would die, and the embittered would spend many nights and days remarking on the absurdity and the glory of both. It was the only moment when the embittered person had the energy to clamber up his defensive walls and peer over at the world outside, but then his hands and feet would grow tired and he would return to daily life.